David Memories on the 15th Anniversary

It’s crazy that today, August 11, 2021, is the 15th anniversary of Dave’s passing. 15 years. As we all keep saying, time flies. It totally doesn’t seem like it’s been 15 years.

Initially I wasn’t sure what to write in this anniversary post. After some thought, I decided that this post should be about some of the memories of the fun and funny times I’ve had with Dave.

Many who are reading this had never met him and don’t know what a cool, fun guy he was. For those who knew Dave, you know that he wondering what took me so long to tell some stories about him.

“It’s all about Dave Castles baby. “ He actually used to say that 🙂

We met in 1995 at Kamaole Beach Park One. Dave was on an extended Maui vacation…said he was “semi-retired”. Honestly, I’m not sure what that even means. 😉

He was from Methuen, Massachusetts. He had been in the auto sales business for maybe 10 years and managed a couple of dealerships. He was burned out and decided he needed to take a break. Good timing because I had just left the radio station and was taking a break myself. We hung out every day and night for five months….mostly at the beach.

(Dave and I hanging out at Kamaole Beach Park One at the volleyball where we first met.)

The one about da Isuzu

Dave was on a six month vacation (he extended it a month) so he rented an ohana apartment in Kihei and bought a car. The funny thing was that after driving brand new cars for years working at dealerships, he actually bought Maui cruiser! He knew it made sense to buy a good used car rather than rent one for the entire time he was in Maui. Of course, later on, he ended up selling it for a profit.

He bought a blue Isuzu pick up truck for I believe $2000. It was lowered and had tires that were too wide and touched the fender if you turned the steering wheel too far. This was totally not a typical Dave Castles vehicle, but he loved it and enjoyed driving it! I so wish I had a photo of it! But of course back then we didn’t think to take pictures of this Maui cruiser. 🙂

Dave called the Isuzu a “sweet ride” and said it with a big smile and looked at you as if waiting for a reaction.

The one about the cover charge

Dave hated paying cover charges when we went out. We used to go to Moose McGillycuddy’s and World Café in Lahaina among a few other places.

(Dave and I hanging out at Kimo’s in Lahaina, Maui with friend, Bonnie, from Long Island. Lucky Bonnie got to experience driving the Isuzu cruiser!)

One night that Dave and I decided to go to World Café, we were running late and parked pretty far. Cover charge started at 9pm and it was just a few minutes before nine when we parked. Dave decided we should run to make it there before 9pm. We full on sprinted….not jogged, sprinted…. from the car all the way to the front door at World Café. We were cracking up the whole way and people must’ve thought we were crazy.

We made it just before 9pm, but I guess the local guy/bouncer at the door had already started collecting cover charge, which btw, wasn’t much. Dave told him it was not yet 9pm. The guy said they were already collecting cover. It went on for a bit with Dave explaining how we sprinted from the parking lot.

In the end the guy said, “Come on man, it’s only $2.” I remember how he emphasized TWO dollars. It didn’t matter to Dave though because at this point it was about convincing the guy to not charge us. I suggested he just pay it. He did, but I know he would’ve kept at it if I hadn’t asked him to pay it. Whether it was $2 or $20, Dave hated paying cover. And when I say $2, I mean cover was $1 each! Haha!

The one about the longest running Maui News car ad

Dave owned quite a few motorcycles in the past. Most were Japanese street bikes, but when he moved to Maui, he ended up buying a Harley Davidson Fat Boy. He loved it and it was always super clean and shiny.

At one point I told him it’s not practical to have it and that he should sell it. He agreed and placed a “Run it til in sells” ad in the Maui News. The deal was you pay a one-time fee for the ad, and keep renewing it for free until it sells. Dave set a price; I don’t remember what it was, and the ad ended up running for two years! Completely intentional! 🙂

(Dave giving my nephew, Dallas, a ride the Harley Fat Boy.)

The one about throwing gifts

Dave would make fun of some of the gifts his family gave him. He used to tell me that his mom goes Christmas shopping and remembers his gift while she’s waiting in line at the checkout, then picks something off a nearby shelf. Lol!

We were staying at the Waianapanapa cabins in Hana, Maui, when he showed me the Mickey Mouse men’s sleepwear his mom bought him for Christmas. We were cracking up as he put it on and posed with it. I also would like to add that although he made fun of the set, he did wear the shorts A LOT! Must have been comfy!

(Dave posing with the Mickey Mouse pajamas he got from his parents for Christmas.)

His sister, Cathy, told me about how he used to open gifts from family, usually clothes which were not something he’d wear, hold it up and say, “Oh, you got me this?” and fling it or throw it on the floor. Everyone would burst out laughing about it. They were just used to him doing stuff like that.

He had never done that around us though so neither Sierra nor I had ever witnessed him being a brat and tossing gifts. He did make funny comments though.

Recently I pulled out our entire set of mini DV tapes of Sierra when she was younger. During her time at home during the pandemic, Sierra converted them all to digital files. We came across this one video clip that I’ve watched a couple hundred times at least. It’s a cute, funny clip of her being Dave Castles’ daughter.

Now just a note that we have always encouraged Sierra to be grateful for any gift she gets regardless of what it is, but this unexpected reaction, shows how she’s daddy girl and I have to agree with what Dave says at the end of the clip. Enjoy!

Thanks for being here and reading my stories about Dave.  Will be sharing more fun memories with Dave soon!


Remembering Dave on the 13th Anniversary

Sierra is back in Long Beach rooming with two of her friends and getting ready for the fall semester to start. Soccer training is already underway and my mom and I are looking forward to the games! Go Beach!

Sierra and her friends Elysia and Mahea on move in day 8/4/2019.

I’m lucky that I’m not too far away from Sierra during the school year and I get to see her on the weekends. Of course I get to see her laundry too. 🙂

When I helped to move Sierra into the dorms for her Freshman year last year, man was that tough! This year was a little easier. I know it’s difficult for parents whose kids are going away to college, especially if it’s to another state. It’s probably a little easier to cope with the empty nest when you have your spouse to go through this with and just to have them there with you. I envy them. I wish I had that. I miss having Dave around to help deal with difficult times. And there have been many of those.

Today, August 11, 2019 is the 13th anniversary of Dave’s passing. Thirteen years. It’s insane how the time has flown by so quickly. Sierra and I continue to remember Dave on different occasions like today and try our best to keep him close through our memories with him.

Sierra posts photos and a little note to her daddy on Instagram each year. I’m happy she does this, but also sad that she only got to spend such a short time with him. Five years is just not long enough. For us all those memories of even simple things like his Boston accent or going to the beach are special and always will be.

Sierra’s Instagram post for the 13th anniversary.

Here’s a special memory. It’s a video of Dave teaching Sierra how to ride a bike. Teaching your kid to ride a bike seems like more of a dad thing and I’m glad he was able to do that with her.

On this anniversary, I’m glad that Sierra is close enough to drive home and be here with me on this day of remembrance of our favorite guy. We always try to do something together, usually just the two of us and Diamond Dave in spirit.

Dinner at one of our fave restaurants on 8/11/2019

And no matter who enters our lives in the future, he will always be our favorite guy. Miss you more than ever Dave.

Family <3


Daddy’s Daughter

Something Sierra said and did the other night gave me this idea for a blog post.  It also reminded me how much of a goofball Dave was…..and how she is so much like her daddy. A big goofball! 🙂

Sierra being goofy

Silly Sierra

The other night, Sierra was in my bathroom….again…and as I walked in to get something, she said, “Mom, look!” She pointed at her left calf, posed and flexed, showing off her calf muscles as she flashed a silly smile and raised her eyebrows up and down. This is totally something Dave would do and has done! He’s done that and……always joked around doing the pectoral muscle dance. Whenever he did it, I’d just look at him and shake my head and tell him how crazy he was.

In April 1995, Dave’s friends, Chrissy and Bonnie Russell from Long Island, New York, came to visit us here in Maui. We ended up taking them out to beautiful Hana. One of the things I remember was Chrissy not enjoying the long windy road and her saying that she was feeling “Nosh”. That was the first time I had ever heard someone say that….”Nosh”.

We stopped by Hasegawa Store in Hana and while walking through the parking lot, a guy stopped Dave and said, “Hey! Are you from Methuen, Massachusetts?!” Dave said, “Yeah, how you doin’?” …something he said pretty often in his thick Boston accent. They chatted for a bit more before we continued on to the store. I was confused. I asked Dave, “How does he know you’re from Methuen?!” Dave looked at me and said,”He can tell from my calves.” And with that he pointed at one of his calves and flexed, then looked back at me and laughed. I thought, “What the heck?” and was trying to figure it out.

It wasn’t until later on that I realized that printed on the back of his t-shirt was of an image of a volleyball tournament held in Methuen, MA.

These photos were taken on that Hana trip with Chrissy, Bonnie and our friend Eric Brooks.  We stayed out at the Waianapanapa cabins and had a blast! Dave always made fun of the gifts his family gave him and they would always laugh about it.  In these pics he was actually making fun of the clothes he had received for Christmas from his parents… a set of Mickey Mouse pajamas.  Those actually ended up being his favorite shorts and he wore them for years 🙂

Dave flexing in his Disney PJs

Dave flexing in his Disney PJs

Dave made us all laugh all the time and and I’m so glad that we still talk about and laugh about the funny things he did and said.

It’s really crazy that Sierra does a lot of the same silly, goofy things Dave did.  I love it! It shows that she takes after her dad in many ways, but also makes me feel like he’s still close by….

Laughter is good for the soul….and I’m happy to say that it’s part of daily life for Sierra and me….

 


Run Sierra Run!

Sierra gave up playing in her soccer game this past weekend! Hard to believe, but I’m totally serious!  She actually decided to run in a track meet at Kamehameha School here in Maui instead. I really wanted to post a video we took of Sierra running in her first relay race, the 400 Meter Relay. I ran in this race when I was a Freshman at Baldwin High School and our relay team was undefeated that year and we qualified for the State Meet. Track was so much fun! I was just as obsessed with it as Sierra’s is with soccer! Well….almost as obsessed. LOL!

Pic of Sierra and Lena in Track & Field

Sierra today and Me in high school track.

I know that Sierra will look at the photo above of us and say, “Oh mom! Really?!” But that’s okay LOL! And yep! I know I look like a dork! Look at those bangs! Hahaha!

Although this blog is sort of about me, sort of about Sierra, I created it for Dave and it should all relate him somehow right? Of course there are no rules really because it’s my blog. However, I still needed something, the link to Dave to make me feel that it was okay to post this great video on A David Story of “our Sierra”.

This morning I got that little something…a “sign”, if you will.

I woke up and did what I always do first thing every morning. I picked up my iPhone, checked my emails then Facebook and Twitter. Dave’s sister Mo (Maureen) watched the video of Sierra running and had just posted a reply to my post. Her comment immediately made me feel like Dave wanted me to share the video of his daughter running in her first track meet by posting it here on A David Story. Here is Mo’s comment on my Facebook post:

 

Sign from Dave: Facebook Comment from Mo

A phone call from "David" as Mo posts about Sierra's Track Video

 

It’s one of those really cool things and of course you have to believe in “hereafter”, life or existence after death, to “get it”.  And as they say, “timing is everything”.  And it is! Timing matters big time! The phone call from caller “David” coming in as Mo was commenting on Facebook (and I should add, Mo is RARELY on Facebook), was the reason she posted what she did and the reason I am sharing this.

A few hours later, Mo texted me this:

“I couldn’t believe the timing of the call. I actually started to cry. It’s even a new customer not an existing one. Never spoke to him before today! Coincidence…I don’t think so ”

Here is the video of Sierra running the 2nd leg of the 400 Meter Relay…her first time running this race.  They practiced passing the baton for the first time, just before the race! I believe that Dave wanted to me to share this on A David Story because he is just as proud of his daughter as I am.

Go Sierra! I’m still faster than you though! 🙂

 

 

If video doesn’t appear, here is the direct YouTube link:  http://youtu.be/htdAbueUVDY