Est. 2011 · Written by Lena Castles Maui, Hawaiʻi → Southern California

A David Story

Love · Life · Death · Hereafter

Family

The Most Beautiful Christmas Tree Ever!

It was a week before Christmas in 2006. This would be our first Christmas without Dave.  The post office had just delivered a box from Dave’s sister, Mo, that I was about to open.  I was on the phone with my sister, Terri, chatting away as I used a pair of scissors to cut open the tape and pull open the box flaps.

“Eeeeouuw! What is THIS?! I can’t believe Mo actually bought this!”, I said to my sister on the phone. It was a silver tinsel tree!! Not a very attractive tree and definitely not one I would have picked to display in our home. I thought it was so weird that she bought us this ugly silver tinsel tree! Then, I saw the note.  The note I failed to notice because I was busy talking on the phone. The note was written with a black marker on the outside of the box.  It said, “Do not open until you get the small box!” Oops!

Do not open note

Pic of Michael

Dave’s nephew Michael 2008

The small box was delivered separately the next day so I had to wait until the next day to find out about this “lovely” silver tinsel tree.  There was a note on the outside of the small box that said, “Open this box before the large box”. Ummmm….LOL!

Inside the small box was a photo Christmas card of our nephew Michael, who at the time had Farrah Fawcett hair. (Sorry Michael…just couldn’t help myself) Inside the card, Mo had written about her idea for a special Christmas tree. And what a wonderful idea it was!

Tree infoIn years past, a silver tinsel tree was what Dave’s grandmother had put up during Christmas for all the grandkids to enjoy. Mo picked up trees for her parents, brother Jimmie, and sisters Cathy and Maryellen in remembrance of Dave. To make it extra special Mo included ornaments for our new David Tree…butterfly ornaments! How cool! We started off with 38 butterflies, for Dave’s age. Each year we add another butterfly to the David Tree. I’ve actually changed things up a little bit and added an extra butterfly so that we could also celebrate Dave’s birthday on January 4th with the number of butterflies for the age he would have been.

I’m not sure I’ll continue putting up a big Christmas tree or going all out in decorating every year. It’s a lot of work and Sierra is growing up so the need or motivation to keep the house “Christmassy” is sort of fading.  I do know, however, that the David Tree has become a Castles Family’s holiday tradition and that is one I will continue to carry out with pleasure. I love my David Tree and I think it’s the most beautiful tree, the most special tree ever!

This year we are adding butterfly #44.  Merry Christmas Dave and Happy Birthday soon!

Christmas 2012/Jan 4, 2013: Butterfly #45

David's Christmas Tree

Our David Tree

 

Responses

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  1. bonnie December 25, 2011

    AWESOME story Lena. thanks for sharing. your "david tree" is gorgeous... and has so much life.. as you and Sierra do. you know.. he is looking down and smiling at you two.. each and every precious day of your lives. God Bless you guys. xoxo bonnie

    • Lena January 20, 2012

      Bonnie thanks for your note! I believe he is with us every day and enjoying watching his girl kick the soccer ball around! See you guys soon xoxo

  2. Terri Valle-Quichocho January 6, 2012

    Awesome tree and also rememberance. Happy New Year!!!

    • Lena January 6, 2012

      Thank you Terri! Happy New Year to you and your family :)

  3. Tania January 6, 2012

    I love the butterfly and silver tree! I've got an artificial green tree and am thinking I'd rather have a white or silver (stopped doing cut trees years ago).

  4. Marilyn December 12, 2012

    Lena, I love it. That tree glows with beauty and love. A butterfly for every year. I haven't got a tree yet. Don't have the proper mood. Want to, but we shall see. Yours inspires me.

  5. Elinor Gawel (Eli) December 15, 2012

    Holidays without loved ones are tough. What a great idea to celebrate your love like that. And it is beautiful too,

  6. Toby Neal December 17, 2012

    Oh my, what a lovely and touching story. And the picture is worth a thousand words.
    Thanks for sharing. I'm doing clear glass balls hanging over the dining room table with pictures of all our grandparents who've passed on in them...we want to remember and include them.
    Aloha
    Toby Neal

  7. Tania December 21, 2012

    It's beautiful! I love the believe, the butterflies and the meaning behind it. I do like to decorate for the holidays but I'm quite minimal and had decided to do away with a tree altogether. I'm fine with my tabletop displays of German wooden pieces and few little things here and there. My BF did buy an faux tree, a small one, so I did display it last year.

  8. chris December 27, 2012

    Beautiful tree and powerful story. Thank you so much for sharing it. I hope you continue to be "Christmassy" and have the tree up. It's so good to get in the spirit and think of our loved ones we've lost and spend quality time with those that are still here. Cheers!

  9. Courtney - Maui Jungalow January 8, 2013

    This is a lovely tree. Butterflies are a symbol of hope and resurrection so they are great for the holidays. Peace and blessings.

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